Standing up for yourself is a matter of respecting yourself. Instead of making excuses for Traits Of Toxic Parents, learn to stop the behavior in the least confrontational way possible. Let them know in a non-threatening way that you don’t like the way they are talking to you or treating you.
2. Set boundaries.
Have clear physical, mental, emotional and spiritual boundaries.
Establishing boundaries with your parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves, and learning to say”no”, is essential to a healthy, balanced, and positive life.
3. Be aware of your emotions.
In order to stop yourself from engaging with this person when they are trying to push your buttons, or manipulate you, you have to be aware of yourself and your emotions.
Learn to recognize when it’s happening. Ask yourself how you feel when you are with this person.
If you believe they are toxic, do something to take control and protect yourself, like walk away.
4. Distance yourself.
Find ways to avoid toxic people all together by changing your schedule or avoiding places they go. Limit you exposure with them and eliminate unnecessary interactions. Don’t make time for them – guard and spend your time wisely.
The bottom line is this – if there are people in your life that drain your energy, make you feel badly about yourself or hold you back, then you must take appropriate action.
5. Focus on solutions, not problems.
Don’t focus on the other person and how toxic they are to you and your life. Instead, focus on the solution and what you are doing to eliminate their toxic influence. This puts you in control and reduces stress.
6. Check your self-talk.
You must be kind to yourself and show yourself respect. Don’t let the toxic person influence your life or how you feel about yourself. Always speak to yourself with positive, loving, uplifting, and supportive self-talk.
7. Never get too hungry, angry, lonely or tired.
When you allow yourself to get overly hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, you open yourself up to responding and living contrary to your values. Make sure you take care of yourself and are always in the right frame of mind to deal with whatever comes your way.
8. Vent and move on.
There is nothing wrong with going to someone you trust, that you consider a part of your support system, and talking about how a toxic person treats you or is influencing you. We all need to vent from time to time.
However, don’t make it a habit, or you are just complaining. Make sure you are moving forward and taking the necessary steps to eliminate the toxic influence. Then let it go.
9. You are what you hang around.
If you think you can be around someone and their influence and not be affected, you are wrong.
The strongest, most dominant energy always wins!
The ultimate impact toxic people have on your life, and self-esteem, can be strong. Not only will you become negative, you will most likely pick up other traits that they exhibit.
Sugar can cause mood swings, provoke personality changes, disturb mental illness, and exacerbate nervous disorders, and caffeine can cause agitation and disorientation.
Any of these symptoms can keep you from properly dealing with toxic people and their influence on you.
If after reading this article, you realize that you are a toxic person, first let me say congratulations for having the courage to recognize this in yourself.
Work on yourself every day to change for the better. The recommendations in this article should help you do just that.
Next, consider confessing your toxic behavior to those you have an effect on, and ask for their help in holding you accountable for your future behavior.
Self-awareness, and the support of others to ensure you are changing for the better should help change you and your life for the better as quickly as possible.